Is it Attraction or Love? Confused !!

"Love" such a routine word which is being used by everyone in their daily lives. I think it's the easiest word which can be fit in anywhere and we use it so casually without knowing the actual meaning of it. Isn't it?

"Personal Diary" Have anyone of you used to write personal diaries or writing it? If you havn't till now, mark my words, it's the big miss of your life. I had kicked off my writing when I started my college life.I think there were so many changes taking place in my life that I wanted somebody to hear it without judging me or making a fun of it and thats how the birth of this Diary took place and then I stopped writing it when I had real loved ones in my life.

Guess what? I read it after 12 years today and one of the important realisation I found that I was not able to differentiate between "Attraction" and "Love" ?

Does it happen with you also?

By the way, whenever we talk about some beautiful place or our favourite holiday destination which we like, there is always a picture in our mind of that place. In the same way when we talk about "Love" there is always somebody's image which comes in our mind but have you ever thought, should outer beauty be the base of Love?

Thinking !

The base of Love cannot be the outer beauty and if it is, then it is "Attraction". Many of us have misconstrue Attraction as "Love" and that's the rationale behind the relations which didn't work out. Because as time swings the action of that person starts exasperating us as the Bae is not replicating that love, care, understanding which we can feel from our heart.. Life start taking a ride on bumpy road.

Have you ever paused breath? How does it feel. You felt like you are choked. Correct !

This is how Life turns without Love. Love cannot be seen but it is so essential for us like "Air" to live our life.

I have seen many people around me who give label to others like fat, ugly, vernac etc but the same person is being treated like prince or princess for their parents. Have you ever thought why? as the person is the same here. Reason being that they were not being evaluated on their bodies but were being appraised by the beauty of their heart and soul and this is how the true relations work and survive when understands in this way.

Have your ever tried to fill the water in the filled bottle? You must be thinking it is such a silly question. Now think, how can you fill love in your heart when it is already filled with you, yourself, your happiness, your need, grudges, revenge, expectations etc.

We cannot understand someone when such feelings are breathing within us. We need to clear off all the junk, the baggage of old relations which we carry within. As I had mentioned that love is not a business, "it's all about giving" so start giving freedom, compliments, happiness, respect, care, trust and show your thankful attitude without any expectations.

Now many of you will say that where the relation is, expectation will always be there?

I agree but there is a difference "to get something by its own" or "to ask for it". Expectations get automatically fulfilled where Love flourish. If it is an attraction then it will never fulfil even if you ask for it.

Muddled?

Have your ever got a plant at your home? I am sure "yes". Leave it in one corner of your house and do not give water and do not show sun to it. It will die soon !

If you want your plant to survive, shed beautiful flowers then you need to take care of it.

Do you understand something now?

"LOVE COMES WITH A RESPONSIBILITY"

Love cannot get alive in our lives just by saying "I love you" innumerable times. You need to show it in your actions.You need to fill your relation with care and dedication, take off the doubts from your mind and need to create the foundation of trust and belief.

It doesn't matter what relation you are in ? Every relation has its own responsibility like Respect to your parents, Education and guidance to your kids, Care for your lover etc. If you are clear about your responsibility and acting on it, expectations will be automatically fulfilled.

So are you geared up to take the responsibility :)

Cheers