Have you taken the control of your life yet ?

Hey Everyone ! I was talking to one of my team members and he said “My Life is not working as I want and I do not know what to do ? I am sure this is the question which you have heard many times from people around you. Let me first share a quick story with you : Once it happened that husband and wife were arguing on one important burning question: who should close the front door today? It is not a small issue and not a laughing question either. These are very serious domestic issues. Who should close the door today, who should switch off the garden lights this evening, who should take the dog for a walk—these are questions that can drive couples to divorce and the argument heated up. The wife decided, “Every day, it is I who in the end accepts defeat. Today, I am not going to give in.” The husband also grew equally determined. “She pushes me around all the time. I am not going to give in to this woman today, no matter what. “Now, every home has its own system of resolving these arguments. In this family, both husband and wife sat silently and decided the person who uttered the first word would have to go and close the door. The two sat in pin drop silence. Watch needles had taken many rounds now. Dinner was on the table. If the husband said he wanted to eat, he would have to close the door. If the wife proposed dinner, she would have to close the door. Midnight. They were still sitting. A few rogues were passing by on the street. They saw the doors of the house open, lights on, no party, nothing. Everything was quiet. They wanted to see what was going on, so they looked into the sitting room. They saw two people sitting there, steadfastly silent. The rogues looked at the silent couple. They were a little surprised. They decided to take a chance. They helped themselves to a few valuables in the sitting room. The two people said nothing. The rogues grew amused. Emboldened, they sat at the dining table and served themselves dinner. The couple sat heroically silent. The rogues were hugely tickled. What the hell was happening here? They grew bolder still. One of them kissed the wife. Still, the couple didn’t utter a word. The one who spoke would have to close the door. The stakes were too high. Neither could risk it. Now the rogues got a bit spooked. They decided it was time to leave this strange household. But before they left, they wanted to leave their mark. They decided to shave off the husband’s moustache. One of them approached him, razor in hand. Then the husband finally spoke. He said, “Okay, damn it, I’ll close the door!” Understood ? Perhaps the scenarios are different in our lives. The question is the same : Who is responsible? Let’s put the question more precisely: who is responsible for the way you are right now? Your genes? Your father? Your mother? Your wife? Your husband? Your teacher? Your boss? Your mother-in-law? God? The government? All of the above? Ask someone, “Why are you in this situation?” Without a pause the response will come, “You know, when I was a child, my parents . . .” The same old story, with just a few variations. We love to pass the buck in a hundred different ways each day. We have turned experts in this game and have accepted this as a truth of life ! It is our ability which decides what our life can be. Our ability to respond with intelligence, competence and sensitivity to the situation we are in. The different thing is that we have allowed the circumstances to decide our lives by a compulsive and reactive approach, we are somewhere enslaved by the situation and due to which circumstances decides our destiny. Being fully responsible is to be fully conscious. We are conscious and have a ability to grasp everything around through our five senses in our mind but we missed to gather and understand the most important thing “what we are and what we can become” Once you will know what you are, you will be beyond all polarities - pain- pleasure, love-hate, masculine-feminine and so on. You will become blissful by your nature and You will be master of your destiny. Implement and understand the word “Responsibility”. Apply in your life and let the magic works ! Cheers Nitin Note – watch out more in next blog to understand “Responsibility”